The ebbs still come, but less dramatically.
Flow comes more frequently and eventually you can trigger it on your own.
But you can't get there without clarity.
And you can't get clarity without what you learn in the dark:
RELEASING
POSSIBILITY
How to get to where you want to be.
It’s important to understand where you shine so you can spend as much time there as absolutely possible.
One of the biggest challenges with being human is the sense of responsibility to do all the things — even if we don’t shine there or simply don’t like those things.
Here's the question to ask: How important is this thing to the future I’m creating?
What got you here won’t get you there.
What you pay attention to grows.
A very simplified view on people, maybe. But you can likely relate. Are you one of the idea people, project people, or worker bees?
We need all of these people to get ideas off the ground. Sometimes we’re even playing all the roles. In my honest opinion, to have a collective sense of joy, ease, and flow (with you, your clients, your people), having people in the right roles aligned with their strengths is key.
Sure, you can get your ideas into the world on your own. No doubt you’re used to doing it. You might have had ideas that were so good and exciting that carrying the project and worker bee responsibilities didn’t even feel that bad.
It's 2022.
Doing what I do for the ravenous, fiery, Mars-like desire to become, acquire, achieve, experience — whether for social or spiritual ascension — is the shortest end of the stick I can pick up. I’m intimately familiar with this way of doing things and how rarely fulfilling it is, if at all.
I know firsthand how this approach makes it almost impossible to feel grounded and like I have a grip on things.
abundance
The truth is, I always knew enough and had the tools to live the way I wanted but so much of what I believed was tethered to what other people believed. People who cared about me, people who loved me.
Because I didn't know any better, when they projected their doubts, fears, and whatever limiting beliefs they had about themselves (or me), I believed them. They were older or more this or more that than me.
no rush
I’m a big believer in reflection, journaling, setting goals and all that, but I cannot get behind the sense of urgency around having all this stuff on lock already, or even being ready to dig into them right now.
For one, reflection is an ongoing process. Having goals set and a word of the year in place already is not a sign that anyone is more together than you. Not having them in place “yet” is a sign that you’re human, surviving a pandemic and doing the best that you can.
purpose
I’ve been so fucking fed up and also felt so paralyzed by the next step. I’ve been heartbroken, shedding perhaps more tears than in 2014 when my grandpa, mom and grandma all died.
In relationship with all this heaviness, I’ve carried so much good and my ancestors carried so much more to help me arrive here to this moment. None of it has been by accident.
I believe strongly that I have come this far for a reason and have a responsibility to keep moving forward into the fullest expression of who 👏🏽 I 👏🏽 am 👏🏽.
Every single day is another chance to get that much closer. The same is true for you.
Taking Time & Asking the Questions
I fundamentally stand for taking time to be alone. And, I am unapologetic about my desire for luxurious getaways. I worked my ass off in the service industry (restaurants, hotels and catering) and developed a strong gift for anticipating and meeting the needs of others, and I am all for doing what I need to get mine met.
I previously broke down how to take time in a way that really maximizes the experience of getting away to think, breathe and plan. Here are a few of the key questions I ask myself in advance and while on my getaways.