Clarity Blog
Musings from My Desk
Like, if someone else was watching you move through your day like a movie — what would they say about you? What would they think? What would they feel? How would they describe you to a friend?
I’m in the middle of an ongoing conversation with someone about the words we choose to describe things.
Are the words you’re choosing conveying what you mean?
Are the sentences you string together telling the story you want to tell in the way you want to tell it?
A friend shared recently that her organization went on a staff retreat that was just...okay.
They barely scratched the surface.
They didn't develop any plans or even a short to-do list to move ideas that emerged forward.
They didn't go deep on any of the topics.
Why did it go this way?
Everyone carved out the time to be there. They did it offsite.
There was some planning involved for sure.
But it was just meh.
A very simplified view on people, maybe. But you can likely relate. Are you one of the idea people, project people, or worker bees?
We need all of these people to get ideas off the ground. Sometimes we’re even playing all the roles. In my honest opinion, to have a collective sense of joy, ease, and flow (with you, your clients, your people), having people in the right roles aligned with their strengths is key.
Sure, you can get your ideas into the world on your own. No doubt you’re used to doing it. You might have had ideas that were so good and exciting that carrying the project and worker bee responsibilities didn’t even feel that bad.
Doing what I do for the ravenous, fiery, Mars-like desire to become, acquire, achieve, experience — whether for social or spiritual ascension — is the shortest end of the stick I can pick up. I’m intimately familiar with this way of doing things and how rarely fulfilling it is, if at all.
I know firsthand how this approach makes it almost impossible to feel grounded and like I have a grip on things.
The truth is, I always knew enough and had the tools to live the way I wanted but so much of what I believed was tethered to what other people believed. People who cared about me, people who loved me.
Because I didn't know any better, when they projected their doubts, fears, and whatever limiting beliefs they had about themselves (or me), I believed them. They were older or more this or more that than me.
A friend recently posted on Facebook a question about cultivating patience. It really resonated with me because I tend to want things to happen right away.
When I really reflect on how I practice patience, it turns out I’m growing in my abilities (thankfully!). I think patience, like meditation, non-judgement, compassion and all the other things that make us better humans, are works in forever progress. They’re practices — things we do over and over with the intention of becoming incrementally better each time.
I’ve been spending quite a bit of time with what I want my business to look like in 2020. I incorporated on November 1, 2018, unveiled on April 1, 2019, and yes, I’m already thinking about what I want to tweak, let go of, and add as the anniversary approaches.
From the outside it might be like, “But you are just getting started…”
Wanna know what the least selfish thing you can do is? Take a solo getaway.
I’m presently stationed at Sarabande Bed & Breakfast in the glorious village of Los Ranchos situated within the city boundaries of Albuquerque, New Mexico. Yes, this little village is inside of Burque, just twenty minutes from the airport and fifteen from downtown.
There is no reason at all why having what you want isn’t possible.
What do you really, really want though? This is a big and not so simple question to answer.
You can’t just arbitrarily pick goals. You really can’t. You’ll never get them and will create a habit of letting yourself down for not getting them. But don’t feel bad, they were arbitrary in the first place so no wonder you gave up.
As I sit here thinking about all the goals, ideas, plans that I’ve come up with since I was a girl compared to all the things I’ve spent my life doing, I realize that my process for getting from here to there isn’t much different today from what it was twenty five plus years ago.
Basically it goes like this…
